Special Holiday tips for Reducing Holiday Stress!

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Reducing Holiday Stress Tip #1

 PLAY PLAY PLAY! Remember your “presence” and focused attention is the greatest present you can give your children. Years from now, they wonʼt remember the gifts, but they WILL remember your times together. Ironically, this is the time of year when parents are the most preoccupied with preparations or involved with social activities outside the home.

Reducing Holiday Stress Tip #2

Look for opportunities to praise! Notice any positive child behaviors and label them with approving words. As you have guests over during the holidays, praise any cooperative, polite and friendly behaviors you notice between your child and others. Donʼt forget to praise yourself as well for staying calm and taking time for yourself! © ®

Reducing Holiday Stress Tip #3

Consider using those holiday goodies or fun stickers as spontaneous rewards for those positive behaviors you want to see more of. Use sparingly!

Reducing Holiday Stress: Tip #4

Remember, when you are interacting together – be it playing a game, wrapping presents, cooking, doing laundry, or cleaning up – use your persistence, social, and emotion coaching methods. For example, “You are really helping just like a team. We are all working together. I feel the joy of holiday time.”

Reducing Holiday Stress: Tip #5

Unplug the Christmas tree! (Metaphorically!) Reduce your expectations for yourself, your family, your in-laws and your children. Donʼt expect “best company behavior.” Remember most children are “wound up” at this time of year. Most parents get themselves too stressed! Schedules may be less predictable. Expect relapses in your child and yourself – accept mistakes and try again.